Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Dalai Lama
Here’s the list. Choose your favorites!
For more help search the terms on the Internet, take out a library book, read magazine articles, visit your local bookstore, talk with a positive-minded friend or apply some systematic creativity yourself. Whatever you do, follow the Dalai Lama’s advice, and take action!
a) My personal favorite: Serve others freely – find someone who needs your help, and help them! Repeat until you feel really great!
b) Develop ‘state of mind awareness’ – frequently check in and describe how you feel.
c) Journal your feelings/attitude frequently – daily; including your developing skill in managing your happiness.
d) Keep a gratitude journal – focus on the little things that bring you joy.
e) Collect and memorize positive quotations – carry them with you; read them often.
f) Get good at creating multiple options – challenge yourself with the questions: “What would be better? What would be even better than that?”
g) Make a workable plan – things really don’t have to stay the same. Envision what would be better, develop a realistic plan, get the help you need and work the plan.
h) Identify what you can manage – and take responsibility for it. For instance, you can always manage your frame of mind; and don’t sweat the small stuff!
i) Develop your self-discipline so that you do those things that help you to be happy over the long term. An emerging future trend is managing self. That means self-reliance and personal discipline. The future will be better – happier – for those who act wisely.
j) Be early – less stress; more thoughtful time; better presence.
k) Pray regularly – ponder; meditate; a spiritual center provides profound strength.
l) Read positive books and biographies – over time, we become much like the company we keep; a good book is good company.
m) Listen to positive music – music reaches more deeply into our soul than other forms of communication. Choose music wisely with the intent to be positive and happy.
n) Watch positive videos – videos create a virtual reality that doesn’t stay isolated in a ‘for entertainment only’ compartment in our brains; fun is serious business.
o) Believe that everything has meaning to it – identify good learning in hard experiences.
p) Learn to laugh at life – be quick to laugh; because eventually we laugh at most of life anyway.
q) Turn hard times into good stories – even while you are going through the tough part, you can be thinking, “The grandkids will love this one!”
r) Avoid bad news – it’s good to stay current with the news; but we don’t need to accept the ‘bad news bias’ in reported news.
s) Read the statistics in your favor – the glass is not half empty; it’s half full.
t) Be blue for a moment; then get over it – sometimes the sad side needs its moment in the sun, but only a moment.
u) Make health and fitness a top priority. EXERCISE! Get more sleep, drink more water, less other stuff – it just works.
v) Learn from affliction – rather than simply suffering, study your difficulties to learn about the virtues that they can teach you. Pain makes us strong. Disappointment builds resolution. Failure teaches humility.
w) Ignore negative thoughts – you can starve them to death; works well for me because I can be quite forgetful!
x) Mind your own business – we have enough of your own struggles without trying to become an expert in others’ issues; forget the gossip and criticism – there is no benefit for you or anyone!
y) Say ‘please,’ ‘thank you’ and ‘I’m sorry’ a whole lot – not sure why this works so well; it changes the whole atmosphere – way more effective than it should be …
z) Remember that everyone has a mother – Mothers love their babies. We were all babies once. We are all lovable.
Okay, I’m out of alphabet, so I’ll stop now.
Action: Every one of us can be happier! Select from this list (or from your own ideas) one thing that you can do to be happier. Tell another person about it, and do it! Maybe, do it together. Take action!! There is power in happiness that you simply cannot do without.